Editor,
I recently encountered a comment from a conservative friend who was taken aback when I identified myself as a gay voter. His retort was simple: “Why does it matter what you do in the bedroom? You don’t see me telling people I am heterosexual.” While his perspective might seem reasonable at first glance, it overlooks the deeper significance behind how we choose to identify ourselves.
For me, identifying as a gay male is not about my private life—it is a declaration of who I am after a long and painful journey towards self-acceptance. I struggled with internalized homophobia and faced rejection from friends and family. In many parts of the world, simply being gay can lead to persecution, imprisonment, or even death. Thus, proclaiming my identity is not a casual remark; it is an act of resistance against centuries of discrimination and oppression.
Moreover, being gay encompasses much more than the sexual aspects of life. It is about embracing a vibrant culture—rich in history, art, music, fashion, sports, and community. Our identity is a celebration of resilience and creativity, an affirmation that we are a family united by our shared experiences and struggles. In many countries, gay individuals still face barriers to marriage and adoption, and outdated religious views continue to cast judgment, despite the universal truth that all children of God deserve dignity and respect.
As a gay voter, I feel a responsibility to support candidates and policies that safeguard our rights. Visibility is essential not only as a form of self-affirmation but also as a beacon for young people who may be facing similar challenges. While those who are straight may not fully grasp the daily realities and hardships we endure, it is crucial to understand that my identity, and the identity of others in our community, is about much more than private behaviour—it is about survival, representation, and the ongoing fight for equality.
I hold onto the hope that one day it will not matter if you are gay because everyone will be loved and embraced unconditionally. However, today the reality is stark: there remains a significant amount of hate, violence, and rejection against gay people. Our journey toward a truly inclusive society is far from over, and we have a long way to go.
I urge our community to recognize that identifying as gay is an important, courageous, and public stance against intolerance. It is a reminder that our collective history, our culture, and our future depend on the freedom to live openly and authentically. Let us champion a society where every individual is seen, heard, and protected.
Sincerely,
Alex Sangha, Delta
